“The ratio” – part 1

Have you ever heard this term?

I remember I’d be hanging out with some single friends, and the conversation would excitedly shift to the dating topic. There always seemed to be that one person who would remind everyone of the “ratio”, so we wouldn’t get too excited. Or, that one guy hanging with a group of us single women who would remind us that he felt sorry for women because, after all, “men have more options”.

Let’s get a few things out of the way…

1. I did notice there seemed to be more single women than single men (it varies by location).
2. Most sisters who want to find someone do NOTHING about their situation. Stay with me…
3. The women who actually do SOMETHING about their situation are in the MINORITY and position themselves in the top percentile of people most likely to get what they want (think Ruth with Boaz….I love reading about her…she did the modern day equivalent of breaking and entering and ended up blessed…but don’t try this tactic TODAY)

Is number 3 really all that surprising? People IN GENERAL who put in effort to work toward a goal will get closer to that goal and maybe even attain it. They’ve got a better chance of reaching a goal vs. the person who does nothing.

Number 3 holds the key. The women who bother to do SOMETHING about their situation skip to the front of the line. They aren’t predictably hanging with the same group of women every weekend at the apple orchards wondering where the spiritual men are, and they aren’t afraid of “the ratio“. In a sea of people who do not know what to do, the women who actually try are playing a completely different game than the folks who do nothing…and nobody expects it.

Continue to “The ratio – part 2“…