I was recently on Facebook and happened to see an article featuring the beautiful Olympian, Lolo Jones. She’s 39 years old, accomplished, universally considered attractive, and obviously hard working and successful at her craft. She also doesn’t mind publicly sharing her beliefs regarding her traditional values and morals and how difficult it has been for her to find love while…
If He Doesn’t Approach Me, How Can He Take the Lead?
He seems thoughtful, kind, spiritual, hard-working, mature, and responsible. He’s physically attractive. You’ve heard he’s also fun to hang around. Maybe you’ve even spotted him among mutual friends having a good time. This seems like the type of person you’d like to genuinely get to know more about…but you do nothing. What’s stopping you? Pause. I’ve seen this scenario play…
Ignored dealbreakers and make believe relationships…oh my
I remember a while back I’d met up with a woman for dinner. The conversation turned to relationships. She said she had a crush on a friend who was very overweight (dealbreaker….she wasn’t attracted to overweight men). They’d been friends for 2 years and he’d just helped her move to a new place. He would pay for dinners when they…
Not Everyone Will Be Happy With Your Progress
I was working on my self confidence, doing more personal study (especially regarding marriage and dating) in the Bible along with Bible aids and secular information. I was setting achievable spiritual goals, life goals, traveling, widening out, working on my style, fitness, beauty, and my confidence. My confidence soared! I was meeting new people, trying new things, and really coming…
“The ratio” – part 1
Have you ever heard this term? I remember I’d be hanging out with some single friends, and the conversation would excitedly shift to the dating topic. There always seemed to be that one person who would remind everyone of the “ratio”, so we wouldn’t get too excited. Or, that one guy hanging with a group of us single women who…
Fail Forward to SUCCEED, You can Only Marry One
Dating is a journey. The sooner you realize and accept this, the better off you will be. When you see a couple that appears to be happily married, you really don’t know the story behind how they ended up together. You see the end result…the holding hands and the smiles. You didn’t see the incompatible people they dealt with along…
Stop Viewing Other Women as Competition
Did you become the designated “Congregation Auntie” over night? You’re single, it seems everyone knows (or just assumes these days), and you keep getting invited to events that consist of women, children, and married couples. If you do happen to get invited to something a little more co-ed, the ratio is something like 10 or 15 women to 3 men…
Case Study – Sarah R.
I had the pleasure of interviewing a friend of mine who was willing to work with me, put in effort, and have fun along the way. Learn about her journey below! What was your dating life like before we met? What were your views about your dating life?Before we started working together, I had no dating life. I wanted to…
“The ratio” – part 2
As the weekend approaches, do you ever find yourself thinking this on a Friday night? “I hope someone invites me to something.” The same girls you normally hang with invite you out to do the same things you end up doing every weekend (usually involving eating, happy hour, or some activity you just find yourself going along with). The group…
MONEY DOESN’T MATTER IN CHRISTIAN DATING – WHAT?!
Show of hands – how many of us have been sold this lie? I’d really like to know who came up with this Bible voodoo as a way to guilt you into dating someone who either hasn’t planned for or doesn’t have the means to provide at least basic necessities for his future wife. When I was dating a few…